Between the Lines By David Lias This week's column is courtesy of my wife. This was given to her this week by one of her co-workers. It's a message worth repeating time and time again:
Read this, and let it really sink in . . . then choose how you start tomorrow. . .
Larry is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"
He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Larry was because of his attitude.
He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Larry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Larry and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"
Larry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, 'Larry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.' I choose to be in a good mood.
"Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it.
"Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life."
"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.
"Yes, it is," Larry said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or in a bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live life."
I reflected on what Larry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.
Several years later, I heard that Larry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: He left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers.
While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robber panicked and shot him. Luckily, Larry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center.
After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Larry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullet still in his body.
I saw Larry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Wanna see my scars?" I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place.
"The first thing that went through my mind was I should have locked the back door," Larry replied. "But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I really got scared. In their eyes, I read, 'He's a dead man.' I knew I needed to take action."
"What did you do?" I asked.
"Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me," said Larry. "When asked if I was allergic to anything, 'Yes,' I replied.
The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Bullets!' Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.' "
Larry lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.
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I don't know if this story is true. But the more I read it this week, the more I realized that I've come across unique people that share Larry's spirit. It's an attitude well worth striving for.