My Story Your Story: Hug your spouse often and other things to do

You can tell a lot about a person simply by the lists they make.

You know if they are eating healthfully by perusing their grocery lists. Lots of veggies, juices, organic soy milk, whole grain breads and cereals.

You know they�re planning a party by their jottings. Chips, dip, pop, beer, wine, frozen pizzas and several bags of ice.

You can see they are overworked at the office by the unending lists that lead from one page to the next on their legal-sized notepads.

And, it�s obvious if they have kids just by the number of lessons, activities and pick up times on their calendars.

If people don�t make lists but have all of their action items and appointments plugged into their phones, tells you something.

Every week, I make lists. In fact, you could say that I sort of live by lists. I have short-term lists of what I need to accomplish every day and long-term ones for what I aspire to do in the next one to five years.

I have grocery lists and cleaning lists. I have lists on scrap paper where I�ve scribbled topics I want to explore.

You can tell if people are happy or sad simply by the lists floating around in their heads.

I have a wish list that I don�t write down � some are indulgent and others not. Wishes for�

�less frizzy hair

� longer walks

�people to not litter

�a return trip to Europe

�world peace

�end hunger

Those of us who create lists know exactly why we make them. Lists keep us on track � they ground us. Lists prevent us from forgetting and remind us of what�s most important.

Aside from my favorite books by Maya Angelou, Tony Morrison, Eudora Welty, Ted Kooser, Sherwood Anderson and so many others, one of my beloved works is a little known volume titled �Lists to Live By.�

As you�ve already concluded, this book consists of carefully thought-out lists on topics like success, marriage, romance, health, commitment, virtue, wisdom, family, love and so on.

I love the book �Lists to Live By� because if everyone had a copy and actually lived by it, the world would be a better place. Families would live in harmony. Children would feel safe. Marriages would be stronger. People wouldn�t be broke. We would all be better at time-management. Kids would grow up to be responsible, mature adults.

On pages 112-115 are two section, �Little Things for Wives to Do� and �Little Things for Husbands to Do.� Interestingly, each list is two pages long, unlike most of the other one-page lists. Hm-m-m�must be we have some work to do, like�

�pray for your spouse daily

�show your spouse you love him/her unconditionally

�don�t talk negatively to or about your spouse

�give your spouse adoring looks

�listen to your spouse when he/she talks to you

�don�t try to mold him/her into someone else

�hug your spouse often

You can tell a lot about a person simply by the lists they make.

A resident of Southeast South Dakota, Paula

Bosco Damon is a national award-winning columnist. Her writing has won

first-place in competitions of the National Federation of Press Women, South

Dakota Press Women and Iowa Press Women. In the 2009 and 2010 South Dakota

Press Women Communications Contest, her columns took five first-place

awards. To contact Paula, email boscodamonpaula@gmail, follow her blog at and find her on FaceBook.

2011 � Copyright Paula Damon.

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